4 Things Judgers can Learn from Perceivers

I know it's been a while, a lot has happened the last month. I've spent the last week or so sorting my life out and getting back into the normal routine of things.

I am going to start the new series I mentioned before but I'm still working on getting it started. So for now I'm going to start off a different series on personality types called "Who we are?"

I find personality types very fascinating so you can expect me to add to this series every now and then. So here is the first one:

[If you don't already know your MBTI personality type this will probably sound a bit strange to you. If you would like to go and figure yours out first that is up to you. I would explain it now except I haven't the time. I may attempt to do so in another post we shall see. But for now maybe reading this post will give you a glimpse into whether you are a Perceiver or a Judger.]

4 Things Judgers can Learn from Perceivers

Who are we?

As an 83% Judger I am basically one of the most Judging "Judgers" you can be. But despite me being a full on Judge, I am around Perceivers most of the time. I have three siblings that are perceivers and I have many Perceiving friends. Because of this, I have learned a thing or two from Perceivers that I feel are helpful to me as a Judger. I thought I'd share some of these insights with you other Judgers out there who might also want some insights from the world of a Perceiver.

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Live and Let Live

Judgers tend to make a bigger deal out of things then needed and they are very set in their ways. They want things done their way and when they're not done that way it is the end of the world. But it doesn't have to be the end of the world. A lot of it is just how we react to things. Problems are only what you make them into. Try going with the flow. Don’t let a little problem turn into a ruined day.

Imperfections are Okay

Judgers like order and they like systems. Which is a good thing as it's very helpful and it's one of the strong suits of the Judging kind. But the problem that can occur when using systems is that there is a certain order of things. And since we are all humans we mess up, make mistakes and throw off the system some of the time. This is just natural, this is normal, it's not something that we need to fix. But sometimes Judgers get into the practice of trying to fix everything, fix people, and change people from who they are because they don't fit into their own mold, when that doesn't really solve any problems. Sometimes we need to just accept things as they are and let imperfections be imperfections.

Last Minute Plans are Not Evil

You don't have to know about something three months in advance in order to go. Deciding to go somewhere with a group of people and changing where last-minute is perfectly fine! In fact, spontaneous things are usually more fun. Try to go with the flow sometimes.

Try Something New and Different

It's often very hard for a Judger to become open to changing their way of doing things. But new ideas and new things are good. Change is the best, if not the only, way to grow. But Judgers tend to think "if it ain't broke don't fix it" (which, by the way, is one of my least favorite sayings at the moment). Just because something works that doesn't mean there isn't something else that will work better. Try things before you judge them. Trying new things is very important and helpful. I encourage you Judgers out there to go out of your comfort zone and try something new. Especially you introverts out there. You can do it, I believe in you!

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I think all Judgers should have some Perceiving friends because they are lots of fun and super amazing people! They enjoy being spontaneous, they go with the flow, they can help balance you out, they give new ideas, and they are really fun to learn new things from.

There is always something we can learn from the world and from other people around us. We just have to look around and see that not everyone thinks quite like us, and that's ok. The sooner we accept that and start learning from people who are different, the sooner we will start to grow and become more balanced individuals.

- Tori